Love is a wonderful thing. We get butterflies in our stomachs. We see ourselves as the luckiest individuals on this planet. And that’s where the problems start. We get overly excited and make a grave mistake called marriage. From then on your life is not the same anymore. You need to change pretty much everything. The happiness of you and your partner(partners) is interconnected now.
Everything you do is going to affect your partner, one way or the other because you are connected now. In everything, you must consider your partner’s opinion. The only person you need to answer is not just urself anymore. You are answerable to your partner too. You may agree on some things and disagree on some as well. No two individuals are the same.
In that case, you need to compromise. Then you lose the most important thing in your life, and that is yourself. That is the biggest mistake you could ever make. See, just sacrificing your opinions, likes, and yourself is not going to solve the problem. it’s just making it a little bigger for the next time. Once you start compromising there is no end to it. It’s a bottomless pit, you just keep on falling until there is nothing left of you.
Never lose yourself for someone, because you cant be the same and you parter will never be satisfied with that.
This ain’t love. Love is not about destroying someone. It’s not about sacrificing, so you could be together. Then what is Love?
What is Love?
Love is an emotion. It’s a feeling you develop for someone in a particular span of your life. It can change, and it will because we can never be the same forever. Nobody stays a kid forever, and nobody stays in their 20s forever. There is always a time limit on everything. There is a time limit for our existence as well. In the same way, love has a time limit. It keeps on changing. Only plastic stays the same for a long time, all the living things keep on changing. We grow up, change and Love, and that may turn into something beautiful or something painful. Anything can happen. There is no guarantee on anything.
Then, you may ask, what is the problem with love? See, there is no problem in love, not at all. The problem exists in the people who are in love. They don’t understand, what is love? My dear friend, please understand that love is not a commitment, it’s not a relationship, it’s not an agreement. It’s simply just a feeling. All these things aren’t actual facets of love, they are created by people to control you, exactly you. Open your mind and you will start seeing things more clearly. Ask yourself, why do we need to marry in the first place? How can you commit to a single person(or a single group) for the rest of your life, when you don’t know, what’s gonna happen the next year, the next month, maybe even next week. Just how???
If you can’t answer this question, how can you promise yourself that it will work out pretty well and there will be a happily ever after ending like the movies do? The truth is we can’t predict. But, I can help, in protecting your heart from breaking. Yes, there is a way, and that is by showing you all the negative effects of love, so you can be careful the next time it finds you.
I’ll effects of Love
The honest truth is love doesn’t have any ill effects until it stays as love. Love makes you more alive. It gives you a wonderful experience of life. But it hardly stays the same as just love. When a person is in love, he enjoys his life, his smile is complete, his face is bright. But when he/ she express his/her love to that special someone and they too feel the same, now we have a problem.
Now, you both start a stupid thing called a relationship. In the beginning, only the sky is the limit to your happiness. But then reality kicks in. The person you loved is not the same anymore. He/she has been changed. And this is because you are committed to that person. Now, he/she has expectations of you. A sad truth about expectations is that they can never be truly satisfied. The moment you satisfy an expectation of your spouse, the next one kicks in. And the story repeats. Your life has been successfully modified into Hell. You loved him/her so much initially, but now you start feeling to run away from her. That is so bad. Now you may ask, ” In that case, shouldn’t I Love at all?” No, of course not. There are some ways.
Love without side effects
- Love that person for who he/she is to you and don’t express your love.
- If you think he/she can understand you better and you hope a relationship may work.
- Then go with a living relationship for 2 years before you think about marriage, if it works for you.
- If not, just leavethat relation and move on, you dont need more pain in life.
- If both of you are open minded, then you may start a relationship of unconditional love. Here you both love each other, and dont expect anything or promise anything. You would stay until one of you changes their mind.
Conclusion
Love your special one, or maybe ten. Share your happiness, accept each other, be honest and never ever sacrifice, because it won’t last well. Don’t trust me? Then try for yourself.
A Relationship built on sacrifice wont last well.