We meet a lot of people in the course of our life. Some of them become our friends. And very few become Best Friends for life. We share a lot of things( even our very personal secrets) with them. You may be thinking until now that, friendship is magical, which just happens just like that. But, the truth is, it does not. Friendship or any relationship ( except blood relation) is a conscious or subconscious decision taken by our brain.
How does a Friendship Take off?
The friendship actually starts with admiration towards the quality of that person. Either it is the quality we have or we want to have.
We never love a person but, only Qualities.
-Blaise Pascal
The more admiration we have towards that quality the more we like the person. Can you name a best friend whom you actually hate? No, you can, because a friend is an extension of yourself. You just love yourself in that other person. There is a saying, Birds of a feather, flock together. This means people with the same kind of mindset and opinions become friends. As there are pros and cons to everything, there are pros and cons to friendship as well. A friend is a person who can turn your life into either Bliss or a Mess. So you must be very careful with your friends.
Choose Your Friends Carefully?
You may say by what you understood until now that, “My brain takes care of who I am friends with, then why should I worry?” True. Your brain does a great job in finding Good Friends, but the problem is nobody stays the same forever. Your friend is good for now, what about next year, maybe a month later? People change over time. So you must be cautious. A good friend may suddenly turn into an envious enemy, at any moment. A best friend when hurt can turn into the Greatest Enemy you could ever face. Then how to choose the right friend? Before that, let’s talk about, How to beware of the Wrong friend?
What to avoid in a friend?
Certain qualities may attract you in the present but may harm you a while later.
Jealousy
Jealousy is a powerful state of mind, which can destroy the target cause of that feeling. I don’t think jealousy is a bad thing. But it may lead to a bad decision. Jealousy in itself is not bad, what you do with it makes the difference. For example, You and your friend are walking down the street. You see a very rich man hop off his brand new Rolls Royce, you both may feel jealousy(except you are very rich) for a moment, and then suddenly your friend’s mood gets affected, he feels extreme hate for the rich man, then that’s a bad sign. He/ she is on the negative side of jealousy, which is dangerous for you as well as your loved ones. Avoid this person as much as possible, cause he is going to do you more harm than good.
Not Ambitious
Friends are those with whom we spend the most time. Your mental state is greatly affected by your friends. A non-ambitious friend will guide you into stupidity. He/ she will make you lose your goals in life if given a chance. These are the Most entertaining guys out there. You may love them. Although they do not cause any direct harm, the great loss with these people is, they kill your Time.
Users
These kinds of friends are very popular, cause they’re friends with everyone. They seem very close, you will be surprised how you got this close to a person in such a short span of time. That is their magic. You can be best friends even though you just met this person. They get very close to you so that it is easy to use you from here. Pointing them at first glance is difficult, but you can know the truth just after a little while. Get rid of them as soon as possible.
How to findout a True Friend?
A true friendship is not found, it is actually made.
The qualities of a true friend are not presented in front of you just like that. It takes time for them to come out. A good friendship takes some time to become a great one. A best friend is not made overnight. First, you meet, then you communicate, over time you become best friends. SO all you can do is find a good person for you in the present and in the future.
Rationally Jealous
There is a positive side to jealousy. Let us take the same example again. You and your friend are walking down the street. You see a very rich man hop off his brand new Rolls Royce, you both may feel jealousy(except you are very rich) for a moment, but in the same situation, your friend feels admiration towards that man who made him jealous and then he fixes a goal and start working on it, then my friend he/she is a true intellectual, a brilliant thinker. He is using his jealousy to advance himself. Whenever you see a person who is using his jealousy to advance himself, befriend him immediately. This person will never harm you, cause he is busy with his own ambitions. He/ she is going to help you advance yourself.
The Loyal Heart Breaker
The loyal heartbreaker is the person, who breaks your heart at the right time. They hurt you with their criticism when you are on the wrong path, they warn you, scold you, insult you, but they actually care about you. They try to convince you to stop smoking and advise you to quit drinking. This kind of friendship generally is developed over a long period of time, rarely fast. If you have a loyal Heart Breaker, you are very lucky. Never ever lose this type of friend, cause they are limited edition.
The Mentor
A mentor is a person who is a more intelligent and experienced friend. Generally, these people are older than you, very rarely young. You can learn great things from them. These are the people that will mark a difference in your life. If you have a good mentor, the chances of success in that field are greatly increased. This is a wonderful friendship. It is also my favourite, most of my friends are mentors to me.
Conclusion
Friends are a very important part of life. A good friend can make a bad situation, into great, and a bad friend can make a good situation, terrible. So choose your friends wisely.